Take a long look at this face because you may never see it again.
This is Darryl DePiano, the owner of iCandy nightclub in the Gayborhood. As many of you might have heard, Darryl is racist af.
Let’s have a listen into this video posted by Joshua Scott Albert. Put your earbuds on.
If you thought you heard “Nig, nig nig” and “nigger“, twice, you heard correctly.
In case you have any doubts that this might not have been the owner of iCandy actually speaking, let’s have a look at this rambling non-pology from iCandy’s owner:
This post makes me intensely more angry than listening to the audio.
First… as a gay man, a white gay man, a registered-Republican white gay man, let me unpack your rambling which was obviously written in a panic. I’ll start off and be honest with my actual reaction:
Darryl, you have GOT to be the dumbest homofag in the Delaware Valley.
Yeah, I know some of you are creeped by the word I chose. It was the one that entered by brain. It’s literally what I thought watching a prominent owner of an LGBT space acting like an old bigot yelling “nig nig nig!” from his porch somewhere in Fuckmycousin, Mississippi.
But context is everything when you write or speak in public, so Darryl I’m gonna take the liberty here of unpacking your apology.
First: You said this video was from three years ago. Obviously you knew this video was floating around somewhere because it sounds an awful lot like you’ve had to apologize for this once before. And last I checked it still wasn’t socially acceptable for a white male to be uttering the word nigger in casual conversation in a business setting in 2013 as it is in 2016. Don’t tell me you’re a late bloomer and had your Strom Thurmond epiphany just now.
Second: “It was never my intention to do so”. If it wasn’t your intention, then why did you say it? Listen, a lot of people know how much of an asshole you are better than I do. I don’t personally know you, if that helps, but I have too many friends that are more familiar with you than I am. “I apologize, I didn’t mean to do it”… do you understand how childish that sounds? You did mean to do it otherwise you wouldn’t have said it.
I wouldn’t accept that answer from a 9-year-old much less someone balding.
And of course: you were talking about white people when making the comment about your nettlesome customers/vendors/performers giving you a headache. As if somehow that context gave you license to do this.
Since you’re so oblivious and infantile I will explain some more–and in a way that the protestors outside your business can’t explain for you:
While it may be legally acceptable for you to utter “nig, nig nig….nigger” in your own place of work that you own since you are the proprietor, that doesn’t mean it’s socially acceptable. You and your vast network of glom-on friends and your money don’t actually get to dictate that. Moreover, it is in a business setting–your office. You are the leader of all your employees. They take direction from you. Most of them depend on your wallet in order to pay rent. And this is the direction you give, so that’s got to be a real bummer for some of your employees (and a lot of your ex-employees).
Oh sure, you’re sorry now, but you are only sorry now because the whole city now knows about it–and you know how tight the LGBT community is and how this can damage your business.
I’m guessing here that there’s probably some interpersonal things going on which led to this video leaking out to the public; some frustrations which you’re obviously not going to be willing to discuss openly. Why else would someone record THE REAL YOU in your own office surreptitiously and then put it out there? Whatever that side-salad drama is, at this point it doesn’t matter anymore–the deed is done.
And this is what really gets me. Philadelphia is one of the most liberal-ass places in America, where race dominates conversation all the time, to the point of nausea. How in the world did you think in a city such as this one that you can get away with behavior such as that and not get called out on the carpet for it? I’m more surprised that this did not come out sooner.
And if you are worried what this will do to your cash flow, you should be.
Because I don’t see any absolution for you other than to leave. You need to put your ownership stake in iCandy up for sale, and just leave.
No, really. There are going to be some gays (mostly white gays, and mostly dumb ones) who will think that you writing a check or running some benefit or doing some community charity will make this all better. Nope. I am still going to see this face in the Gayborhood and think “ahh, the racist asshole.” So will many of your ex-customers.
You may have suddenly found the cure for your stupid persona within the last 12 hours, but really I don’t want to see your face again. I will never step foot in your establishment ever again. Plenty of other LGBT people won’t either. The Liberty City Democratic Club has already issued a ban on holding any events at your bar and issued an evening press release announcing it.
For fuck’s sale the biggest event in the Gayborhood is days away: Outfest.
Darryl, until you are gone from 12th Street I see no reason why a cent should ever be spent on your nightclub. No words need to be said and no pressure for you to lie through your teeth. You need to either turn your business over to someone who isn’t as stupid as you are or just give it up and close. Someone else will come along and re-activate the space.
You just need to go, walk out the door, ‘cuz we don’t we don’t need you anymore.
Until then, #BYECANDY.
I have had to copy the video from YouTube because SOMEONE is attempting to have it removed, as the person who uploaded it has indicated that YouTube has notified him or her that it’s trying to be taken down. So, I’ll just host the video myself and if you want to make it vanish off the Internet you’ll need to go through my lawyer to make it go away. Good luck. With. That.Tags: Darryl DePiano | iCandy | Outfest 2016 | Outfest